Looking back on my young 21 years, I have seen so many people come and go in my life. Some people I was ready to let go of and others I clung to for dear life. In all honesty, I still have this problem today. There are many people around me that are cutting ties or God is cutting ties for us, and I just can’t seem to let them walk away peacefully. I don’t want my friends to enter into a different season of life, I don’t want things to change between us. I’ve spent countless hours frantically worrying over people I love because I can feel them slipping away. This is not the life God wants for me and this is not what God wants for you, either. I think it might be time for us to set down our swords and raise our white flags in surrender.
The hardest thing for me to do when letting go is giving up my understanding. I always want to know why it’s happening, how it will affect me, and if it will ever get fixed. Psalm 119:130 says, “The unfolding of Your words gives light; it gives understanding to the simple.” While I wish this Bible verse said, “Read the Bible and God will tell you everything you need to know,” it’s really says, “Stay in the Word. It will give you light and a sense of understanding.” When we move aside and let God do His thing, our Spirit gets a sense of understanding that we cannot describe. Letting go gives you a peace beyond words.
Often times, we can’t let go because we are hurt. We may be hurt by the other party’s choice to walk away, take a step forward, or we might be hurt by the way a relationship ended. This is why letting go is so important. How do we expect to truly heal if we can’t move over and let God work in us? Jesus does not want us to hold back or hold on to the past. He wants us to be free to run towards Him and chase after what He’s called us to do.
I tend to put up walls in order to not feel hurt or disappointment. Let me tell you, it never works. I often fire angry responses back at someone when I am refusing to accept their words. I’ve done this to everyone: my closest friends, my family, and my boyfriend. I really have a hard time keeping my mouth shut when I am upset. It wasn’t until recently that I realized this was crippling me and blocking me off from a more tender relationship with Jesus. If God is love, shouldn’t I try to replicate that? Love is understanding, not a harsh dagger. Love should be filled with words of positivity, not with words of anger.
God is a God of truth, understanding, healing, wisdom, and hope. He does not stray away from us in our time of need. God is doing something in your life whether or not you understand it or can even see it. Sometimes people have to take a step back in your life in order for you to grow (and vice versa). Love them always, but let God do what He is trying to do in their lives as well as yours. When letting go is the only option, God’s wisdom is the only answer.