There are few who know me who would call me anything but timid… especially when I was younger. I was (and still am) loud and I craved to be the center of attention in any and every room. By the time I entered and left middle school, I was a very different person, as most of us are. I wanted to be far away from the spotlight unless I was acting. Best friend for years? I will avoid talking to you if I run into you in public. I became silent. I refused to speak my mind except to the people I held the most precious to me. I ran away from any and every social interaction. I was truly timid.
As I got into high school, that part of me slowly went away. I am more like I was as a child but I still consider myself a timid person. In the past five years, the world has begun to see timid women as “powerless” or “anti-feminist.” They are looked down on for “refusing” to speak up about anything. But what if I told you there was undeniable power and a true display of womanhood possible even when you believe you are timid? What if I told you that you don’t always have to be the loudest in the room? As a bossy feminist and sometimes timid paradox, I can testify.
Before we keep going… I need to share the actual definition of “timid” with you. According to good ole Google search, timid means “showing a lack of courage; easily frightened.” 2 Timothy 1:7 in the Bible also states that, “For God has not given us the Spirit of timidity, but of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control.” So let’s get this straight… timid people scare easier than others. We are more worrisome and anxious. This feeling and these emotions are not of God. I am not preaching for you to stay timid but rather how you can use that feeling as a power rather than a defense mechanism. This is not just a lesson on the power of timid but also a lesson on the power of caution.
People in power often make mistakes or have made mistakes in the past. Really, all people make mistakes but people in power have to tell the world about it. Timid people watch as they make their mistakes and grow weary. They go the extra mile to avoid making the same one or panic if they do. They proceed in fearful caution. They do not speak up in the boardroom. They don’t tend to get the promotion because they feel it should go to someone else. They are using what should be their superpower to self-destruct (been there). But what if timid people took that caution and worry to help them move forward?
Caution is an excellent and necessary thing. It’s how you don’t get hit by a car while crossing the street or how you ensure you avoid eating expired food and getting sick (check your labels, people). Caution helps you pay attention and see the red flags maybe before they even appear. How freaking cool would it be if you could miss every obstacle!? Well, as people, we know that’s not possible. But if you use your cautious mind in the way God intended you to, you may avoid more hurt or humiliation or pain than others. If you speak up but are able to notice when it’s the right time, you’ll make more friends along the way.
Don’t let someone call you timid. Be cautious. Be strong in your caution and love that God created you to think five steps ahead. Use your so-called “timid” nature as a way to strengthen your heart and your spirit. Remain confident in who you are and the way God made you. He didn’t create an anxious spirit so that you would hide away, He created you to go boldly forward, with a heightened sense of your surroundings. He created great discernment in you!! If you’re timid, challenge yourself this week to change that into a positive thing. If you’re not timid, encourage someone who is. What you think is a negative trait, is a unique way God built you to adapt to the time you were born in. Own it! x